At 2:30 am December 20, 1976, I officially turned 45 years old. On December 20, 1976, my mother Carrie Hazel Tabor delivered me in Deaconess Hospital in Great Falls, MT in the middle of a blizzard. I was the second child who lived but the seventh that was conceived. You see, my mom prayed for children after having 4 miscarriages, she had my brother Samuel Troy in 1974. She had another miscarriage, I am assuming in 1975 and she delivered me in 1976. So, learning of this story growing up, I knew I was supposed to be here.
Throughout my life, I have seen the favor of God demonstrated through the family that I was blessed to be born into, where my mom and dad gave us a name that equated to faithfulness in our community.
I was favored to be one of many youth in our faith community of Southside C.O.G.I.C. where I grew to be on fire for Jesus.
I was favored to be raised in what is known as the Key City, Abilene, Texas. In 20 years in the Air Force, my dad was stationed there three times including when we moved there in 1979. You see, Abilene was unique in that it was a city of about 100,000 people but everyone treated us like we were special.
Anything of note you accomplished appeared in the Abilene Reporter-News. The first time I was featured was when I was 12 years old and sang on the local taping of the nationally acclaimed Bobby Jones Gospel Show at the Abilene Civic Center. Over the years, they would continue affirming my leadership accomplishments from attending the National Youth Leadership Conference in Washington D.C. to co-hosting the local television show Camp Waycoo on the local ABC and Fox affiliate stations. I’ll never forget that night in October of 1994, when I won homecoming king. It was a dream come true. Though Abilene wasn’t perfect, it was a great place to grow up. I still have friends from as early as the 3rd grade that I met there.
As I matriculated to the University of Texas at Austin in 1995, I was blessed to be a part of a special program called Preview ’95 where black and Latino students would be offered an opportunity to learn during the summer and build community that became our security and foundation on campus. From my time as the president of Innervisions Gospel Choir and member of Gamma Phi Delta to serving as Resident Assistant an Orientation Advisor, I loved being a longhorn and will forever be grateful to the friends I made there.
After graduation, the ministry continued to be a major part of my life from serving on staff with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship and later Greater Mt. Zion to planting Full Life Community Church and later serving as a Program Director of LifeGuard at The Source. I love connecting people to their creator and his calling for their lives.
I currently serve as a program director with Apartment Life overseeing teams that create community in apartments throughout Central Texas. I also continue to do all my speaking, writing, and coaching through III Coaching which I founded in 2008 to inform, instruct and inspire people to fulfill their purpose.
I am forever grateful to my wife April, who has stood by my side for over 22 years (18 of them married). I am thankful to my daughters Anaia and Charis for keeping me grounded and motivated to leave a legacy they can build on. And with that in mind . . .
Today, I am excited to announce my new book, Prioritize for Your Purpose, Ordering Your Life to Be Extraordinary. I began teaching the concepts in the book back in 2005 as a staff with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship as the Campus Staff Member for Texas Gospel Fellowship at our LEAP Fall Retreat. I noticed that many of our students were overcommitted and ineffective because they made everything important which meant nothing was important. You see, when you’re young, gifted, and black, everybody wants to use you to get their goals accomplished. Students were leading in three and four organizations and lacking the focus to be effective in any. They often struggled to maintain relationships let alone their grades which was the main reason they were there. I realized that if they better understood their purpose, they could better prioritize their roles, relationships, time, and money to fulfill their purpose. I hosted the Prioritize for Your Purpose Workshop in various forms from 2009-2020 but now it’s being published as a resource for all to use in their journey of discovering, developing, and fulfilling their purpose.
During this past year, we have lost a lot of people to the Covid-19 pandemic, gun violence, heart attacks, and the like. I am more committed than ever to accomplish the purpose God placed me on the planet. I am not in a hurry to go to heaven but when I do, I want to hear him say what Jesus said in the parable of the talents in Matthew 25:21 “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’
You can pray for me as I re-engage my doctoral studies at Bakke Graduate University where I am pursuing a Doctorate of Transformational Leadership. This is my third attempt to complete this degree.
You can also pray for us as we launch the Prioritize for Your Purpose book, online course, and book tour. Pray for favor as we look to partner with high schools and colleges through the state of Texas and around the country to make this material available to students in this critical season of their lives. If you want to be the first to know when the book is released, click on the link in my bio.
Each morning, I awake and say, “This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it.” (Psalm 118:24) and I am committed to living in purpose, on purpose to fulfill the purpose God has for me. Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!